LMS Blog. What have I learnt?

Finally, the end of the semester is coming and so is this module. Spending close to 14 weeks up till now, I have learnt many things. In this module, I learnt stuff like self-awareness, managing and coping with emotions like anger and fear and the skill of managing conflict. These are all meant to help me become a better person to deal with the above issues and I do believe that it has done that, though not to an extraordinarily large extent. Maybe in time, as I mature further, these skills will be able to help me in future events.

In anger management, I learnt that anger is useful if channelled into the correct areas. I must also not retaliate when somebody is angry as this only makes the other person angrier but rather I should try and to listen them. This is very useful for me because i can solve the situation a lot quicker. Time and priority management is another i find very useful. Unlike secondary schools where projects are very simple and easy to do, the projects here are spread over a long period of time and a lot of stuff have to be done. Thus i have to prioritise my time such as outings with friends and doing my work.

Being able to handle conflict is another boon in doing group work. Most of the time, we had to think up ideas and presentations and when some ideas are not chosen there is some discontentment among the group. This is where we have to handle the conflict properly to prevent further disagreements.

Through all the events, i felt our group did very doing the projects such as researching and coming together to discuss. Every member in the group all had their own personal projects to attend to besides this module and yet we still managed to finish our stuff on time. Conflict-wise, whenever we have to make decisions, we always try to have the full consent of the group before we embark on the next step. If we do not have it, we will try listing out the advantages of the choice we chose and then listening to the other members view on it. After which, we will then have another round of voting.

Overall, i feel that LMS has improved me greatly as a person. The skills helps me to interact better with others and to appreciate myself more. It changes my view of the world in a different perspective compared to the past. I understand more how emotions work and skills to conquer those obstacles that prevent becoming successful.

5 years on..

5 Years Plan

In 5 years, I will be 23 years old. Hopefully, others can know and remember me as someone who is friendly and helpful.

Within that time, I will grow up more mature and being able to handle different situations effectively be it work, social or love.

I need to socialise around more and meet different types of people to give myself more exposure.

Self-Awareness

2. Reflections


i. What are 6 adjectives which best describe you? These can be from outside the list. Think about the evidence or your past experiences that support their accuracy.

i. Principled. Some friends has asked me to try drugs before but i refused.

ii. Logical. Fights between friends, I try to stay neutral and compare all angles.

iii. Adventurous. I believe in trying everything at least once.

iv. Confident. I believe everything is doable as long I am willing to put my heart in it.

v. Flexible. If I am able to change my schedule for others respective needs, I will do it.

vi. Optimistic. Look on the Brightside of life

ii. From the list of adjectives that you scored 3, identify the ones which you best like about yourself. Why are they important to you?

Principled. It helps me to remain the person that I am without losing anything in the process.
Adventurous. We live life only once. Nothing should be too big or small for us to try.
Confidence. It helps me to do stuff and believe in the goals I set for myself.

Self-Awareness

"Let us not look back in anger, nor forward in fear, but around in awareness." A simple statement but true for all.

Self awareness is defined as a thorough understanding of who you are, your values and how you percieve the world. In short, its about knowing and appreciating youself. Most of the time, we are sub-consciously affected by everyday stuff which in turn affect us like looks and height and lousier grades. It is because of this thoughts that our personal growth and development are affected because we do not have the self-knowledge to make decisions in our lives that reflect who we are and what we truly value.

To truly understand ourselves, we should take some time out and truly reflect on what we want and need. Having clarity of who you are and what you want empowers one to consciously and actively make the wants a reality.

Alot of times, we see teenagers getting hospitalised because of anorexia or getting into gangfights. Most of it is attributed to a lack of self-awareness. They'are not aware that lots of other postive things are happening around them that they get involved in the negative stuff. All this could be due to friends, who give them undue pressure. Not really knowing one's values and goals yet, they just go along with their friends in whatever they do. Being truly self-aware, we may find out the positives of living in a small house. That money is not everything in this world and looks are just superficial.

It's only when one slowly grows up and mature that we begin to ask ourselves questions. What type of people do we want to spend our time with? How am i conducting myself in public? and lots more.

All these reflective questions help us to form a clearer picture of oneself and let us understand ourself better.

An angry moment i experienced.

I dont have many angry experiences in my life. But 1 episode that stands out vividly is of the time when i worked at Newurbanmale.com.
I worked there for about 7 months and had a few clashes with my boss.
One example was once i had a friend who visited me in my shop while i was working, so we sat down and started chatting. Of all moments he had to walk in then and caught me there and then, of course i got scolded harshly but i did not really harbour any bad feelings cause it's my fault .
The 2nd example was when a 2 different types of lightbulb in the shop blew.
The 1st bulb that blew was a special kind that only the management guys knew where to get that particular kind, as it was during the X'mas period then, it kept slipping off my mind until about a week later when i got around to informing the correct people.
The 2nd type of bulb was the conventional design where it had this glass bulb on the top and a screw on the bottom. So my colleague was changing the bulb when the glass portion of the glass broke leaving the bottom part attached by only a wire and just stuck to the light circuit. Unable to unscrew it ourselves, we just used some paper and tape to cover the hole so it wouldn't fall and hit anyone directly below. Got to admit it's quite ugly but that was the best we could do then.
One fine day, after the crazy period of X'mas sales, the big boss and 2 management guys came to my shop for
stock taking. Because the boss had noticed the bulb blown a few weeks before and it still hadn't been changed since after, add it with the state of the 2nd bulb. Logic went out of the window and he just kept scolding. I remained quiet because i did what i thought was right and needed at that time.
Anyway, one of the management guys whom i shall just call A, asked me about the 2nd light bulb. i told him exactly what happened but all he did was just stare at me and just nodded his head with a "i dont give a damm what your saying" look on his face.
Perfectly understandable, the boss was there, i'm in the wrong.
But the very next day, when A came down with another person to repair the 2 bulbs, A again asked my colleague what happened to the 2nd bulb. Got the exact reply and he was like' "Oh my god.. so dangerous".
I just wanted to punch him then, Bloody hypocrite.
The thing that really pissed me off the most was i got sacked that very week.
As the incident happened on a Tues or Wed, i got sacked that week sunday.
As the company had this way of releasing the work schedule for the next coming week on every sunday, i discovered my name wasn't in the schedule for the next week.
The thing that pissed me off is when i had to call A, who is in-charge of all employees, and enquire about my status. His words were, " umm yes, today is your last day and you need not come to work starting from monday onwards".
What totally pissed me was not the scoldings but the fact that i had to bloody enquire whether i was fired anot. I dont really know if this is the way they sack their staff but it totally shows no basic courtesy.
Maybe this is the way companies work or maybe its not.
Damm idioitic. If i was told by some other methods, i could totally understand but to actually call them myself., "Hello have i been sacked?"
So yeah, that sums up my experience of an angry moment in my life and its 1 i wont be forgetting soon.

Blogging?

Hello all, this is going to be my 1st blog entry in my entire life.
Specially created for my IS LMS module, its going to teach us on anger management.
Hopefully it's going to serve me well in my 3years in Ngee Ann.